7 Tips for Surviving Mother’s Day When Your Child Has Died
Over the first year following a death, you’ll have to go through the “firsts”—the first birthday, holiday season, and other special days. It can be helpful to prepare for these special days so you don’t get caught off guard.
Tip 1: Be gentle with yourself
You may feel anger, sadness, guilt or a range of other emotions because your child died before you. These emotions are very common with grief—don’t try to suppress them.
Tip 2: Seek out emotional support
Seeking support is a sign of courage, not weakness. Everyone grieves in their own time and their own way.
Tip 3: Be patient with yourself
Talk openly with trusted family and friends about your child and encourage them to talk openly with you too—hearing your child’s name mentioned can be helpful. Plant a flower or tree with a marker that bears your baby’s name.
Tip 4: Create your own memorial
You can be creative and put your energy into doing something in memory of your child.
Tip 5: Light a candle
If you never held your baby due to a pregnancy loss, celebrate your child by lighting a candle.
Tip 6: Give yourself permission to grieve, talk, and journal
If you have not been able to conceive, follow the suggestions above that are right for you. Give yourself permission to grieve, talk, and journal.
Tip 7: Talk about your feelings with your spouse
Talk about your feelings with your spouse and encourage him or her to express to you how they are feeling.