- Identify your guilty feelings and regrets, and think about what might give you relief.
- Try to be objective about what happened.
- Remember you were doing the best you could under difficult circumstances.
- Be prepared to forgive yourself.
- Find ways to work through your feelings, such as service in the community.
- Look for the lessons to be gained.
- Most importantly, don’t forget the good things you did in your relationship.
Adapted from The Mourning Handbook by Helen Fitzgerald